26 January 2013

Father's Birthday

Today would have been my father's 90th birthday. I commented on his passing this past October here but my awareness of his birthday makes his absence all the more poignant.

Interestingly, I sense the loss of my mother less on her birthday than on mine. I suppose that's because she never forgot my birthday, which she acknowledged with a card and gift until the last year or so of her life, and perhaps too because her birthday was often overshadowed by the Thanksgiving holiday.

Together their lives were the most formative influences on mine. And tho' they've passed from the earthly plane their joy has been made complete in the eternal celebration of the marriage feast of the lamb.


  1. My father passed away July 7, 2010, at age 85, after five years of Parkinson's and degenerative mental acuity that was never quite diagnosed. My mother lives, age 89, and unwell. I spent the night at her apartment two weeks ago, upon her release from hospital. I hadn't slept in that apartment in years, and kept on imagining my father's presence there, where he had lived for five years, and where he had died. I am so grateful to God that I had two wise, loving, and life-long faithful parents who provided for me and my three siblings, and who earnestly saw to the formation of my character. Thanks for posting.

  2. Fathers rights are not guaranteed in the UK, especially in child custody cases where the mother and father were not married and the father was not listed on the birth certificate. It is almost impossible for a father who is not listed on their child’s birth certificate to exercise their fathers rights to visitation, so it is very important for a child’s father to ensure that their name is properly listed on each child’s birth certificate.